If you and your spouse have not talked about divorce yet, it’s still possible to know when it’s coming. You can watch out for red flags in your relationship that match up with experiences others have had prior to divorce. When you see some of these issues, you then know that it’s time to either address them as a couple or prepare for the end of your marriage.
There are many, many red flags, and every relationship is unique. Let’s take a look at three seemingly small issues that could still spell divorce.
- Telling minor lies or stretching the truth. One woman said that the man she married lied about his age — portraying himself as just two years younger — when they first met. She found out later and thought it wasn’t a big issue, but it turned out to be a pattern of behavior, and he was a pathological liar.
- Overreacting to small issues. One man claimed that his spouse would sometimes have to leave work because she’d be so angry if a co-worker said something she didn’t like, even when it was minor. As their relationship progressed, he said she always overreacted to everything, and they were constantly arguing.
- Not helping out with the children. When only one spouse has to do the vast majority of the work with the kids, that imbalance can cause resentment in the relationship. When someone won’t spend time with the children or change a baby’s diaper, it’s not just frustrating, but also a signal of how they view the other person’s role in the relationship.
If you have seen these red flags or others and you think divorce is coming, be sure you know what legal options you have.